I rather be happy doing my own things then doing favour for people but end up being unhappy . As much as I am a people person, I do have my own time and space where I would like to do my own things with my own pace and space. If anything goes wrong, there’s only myself to blame and I must admit, I have learned to get to know myself and be forgiving etc. Thus the issue of doing my own things without being continuously dependent on other people does not occur. But if it incurs other people, then the thing becomes more complex. It takes a 1001 reasons (if we allow it) to justify why a person act/reacted the way he or she did. LOL. Then it drags on. The 1001 gives you more headache than the issue itself. The same thing when you feel you’re too ‘tied up’ with a person be it your colleague, house mate etc, causing you to lose your own space and time. So prioritize. The same thing applies when you’re working or simply doing other random things.
I rather be happy with 1 or few selves than be unhappy with a bunch of friends who I thought could make me happy. I will end up bragging how unhappy I am than living the moment. It will not be worth a single second of my time because some people are selfish only to think of themselves and not other people. So is it worth it to be unhappy because of this selfish people ? I say NO.
If making yourself happy is first, then by all respect, the choice is yours. Do all it takes. This life is short and you have to work your craft to make the best out of it. Do not leave it to other people to decide what happiness means for you. You decide. You plan. You commit.You entrust yourself that life would be fair IF you are fair to it. So, balance.