Life

The finer and more beautiful things in life come in bits and pieces. Some may go unnoticed until its really gone. Saviour every little and meaningful moment that you get. Love ; mj.

 

 

Understanding Through Research

Writer relaxing (and studying) by a beautiful dam

Hello JeweLztory ! Haven’t updated this blog for a bit. I have been outstation from the main office (work) to the East Coast here in Malaysia and I must say I do enjoy working here ! I get to share my opinion and ideas, and present them to my colleagues. Recently I proposed the idea of conducting an in house research study to analyze the relationship and correlation between medical leaves and productivity, and how these two are interrelated, and how to reduces total number of medical leaves by promoting a healthy lifestyle to all level of workers. Some risk factors to diseases and pathologies are associated with our daily lifestyle and routine which we don’t deem risky and hazardous in the short nor the long term. I will have to wait a bit till I get the approval..! On top of that, I never thought I would ever initiate a research proposal ! The curiosity bug must have caught on me ! haha.   Mean time, life is a notch slower.. Been lazy NOT doing my training and regular workouts ! Have to get back on track soon. 2011 is just around the corner. I AM excited. 2010 had been quite a year for me I can’t describe it in word. I am looking forward for a slower 2011, do less things (anything) but focus on quality. Among the things that I am looking at is improving myself as a person. Quality check and control is important though at times we tend to let it go for a while only to come back and clear the same old mess again. That is one thing I love about new years. It’s natural (and occasional) to set new goals AND reset old goals, for the betterment of our own lives. What about you ?  Any resolutions you want to share?

 

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Work : Day 3

I got my first few ‘real’ tasks today. Basically some interview confirmation calls, then had to follow up with the manager and interviewer. The thing which struck me was, that there were different little specific steps and procedures which I had to follow to complete a so called simple task. Tried my best to be organized by putting everything unto record (the procedures and templates etc). Jasdeep , again, helped me a lot in familiarizing me with the routine. The phone call to the interviewee was a bit weird. It was my first time to make such a call. I maybe talkative with friends but when handling a task like this, I can’t simple blurt out anything or speak very frankly. But of course, I should not talk in a too formal a tone. I guess it takes practice ! (what else could it be).

Lunch time..another task ! Some stuff to do with recruitment. Also interesting. And later on, a briefing with the department manager. I would call it a lecture rather than a briefing. Many topics were covered quickly. In length and also depth. Some were revision of what I learnt in personnel psychology, and organizational psychology. The overview given on HR (Human resource) was very interesting and I am really glad that none of what were presented to me and Jasdeep was totally new. Some additional and new stuff yes, but wasn’t hard for me to understand. Labour act/Employment Act are pretty interesting stuff to me. I got the Employment Act book. An interesting read awaits. My manager also mentioned about Industrial Relation. Another interesting topic ! Warrghh… my job becomes more and more complicated everyday as there are so many things which I must know what and how to do it. And there is certainly plenty I need to know, learn, read and study. Seeking knowledge is like an endless journey. It gives you the content to fill the empty spaces in your mind and soul with.

Like you, I have some weaknesses. One of them is talking confidently. Maybe with the things I am familiar with I can talk smoothly.. i.e. : about sports, training and such..! but with HR even though I am interested in the field, that ability to speak well in front of an audience or a stranger IN a professional setting it not secondary to me. I still need to learn and practice this.

I have yet to renew/refresh my office wardrobe. I hope I can do it soonest. I think I’ll hit the sack now. Hoping for an early day tomorrow.

To those of you who are about to start work, take 1 day at a time and learn how to be organized in your work and dealings. Love your job (as much as you can) and balance it with your life. That if achieved, will give you that balanced career, God willing. I am at the earliest point of this long path ahead of me. I do not want to rush but I know there are so many things I should be learning in such a short time. My dad reminded me yesterday I should portray a pleasant character, and show that I am hardworking at work  (and off work too of course). I will do my best.

Love life, Love yourself love your loved ones. Nothing means a lot to me than the meaningful people in my life. Life is short. So make the best out of it. I keep on telling myself reserve no place for hatred in my heart. Not even a micro bacteria length bit. Julie, do your best.. and be strong girl…

I thought I looked good in this photo.. but I am not sure of keeping long hair for work.. to messy and consumes a lot of time and effort to keep it looking good !!!

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Balance

I rather be happy doing my own things then doing favour for people but end up being unhappy . As much as I am a people person, I do have my own time and space where I would like to do my own things with my own pace and space. If anything goes wrong, there’s only myself to blame and I must admit, I have learned to get to know myself and be forgiving etc. Thus the issue of doing my own things without being continuously dependent on other people does not occur.    But if it incurs other people, then the thing becomes more complex. It takes a 1001 reasons (if we allow it) to justify why a person act/reacted the way he or she did. LOL. Then it drags on. The 1001 gives you more headache than the issue itself. The same thing when you feel you’re too ‘tied up’ with a person be it your colleague, house mate etc, causing you to lose  your own space and time. So prioritize. The same thing applies when you’re working or simply doing other random things.

I rather be happy with 1 or few selves than be unhappy with a bunch of friends who I thought could make me happy. I will end up bragging how unhappy I am than living the moment. It will not be worth a single second of my time because some people are selfish only to think of themselves and not other people. So is it worth it to be unhappy because of this selfish people ? I say NO.

If making yourself happy is first, then by all respect, the choice is yours.  Do all it takes. This life is short and you have to work your craft to make the best out of it. Do not leave  it to other people to decide what happiness means for you. You decide. You plan. You commit.You entrust yourself that life would be fair IF you are fair to it. So, balance.

“Argumentology”

Avoiding an argument by choosing zero response is as good as no argument at all. Conquer that and you conquer yourself. I manage to flick off an argument today by choosing to keep silent. You know when it’s a bad argument when you keep going on and on. Arguing for the sake of arguing is a waste of time. Keep off what you can’t handle or just kill it.

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Cowards who double-standardize their friends

Cowards find it hard to be sincere, even to themselves. They may have the intention to be sincere but due to ‘external’ circumstances, they chose to be a different person, treating their friends normally, and a certain group of friends in other ways. With this group, for example, the coward can act neutrally, and with another group,or selected individuals, that person just can’t but treat them with less enthusiast, sincerity and openness.

Let’s not be a sissy. I am referring to both the cowards, as well as OUR selves. The coward being a sissy because he does not dare be himself in front of others. There are certain image that has to be ‘conformed’, and if he doesn’t he may lose the game. As for the observer, meaning us, we can’t be a sissy either. We don’t choose to be immature just because we were not treated fairly. Maybe that coward does have some reason why he is double-standardizing.

But nevertheless, any acts which dampens the spirit and sincerity of friendship, will at the end of the day, dampen the friendship as a whole. There is no joy  and happiness in that friendship. So why call it friendship? Think twice when you double-standardize your friends. Would you like the same treatment to be given to you? Would you like to have a stamp on your face which filters you out just because you have been labeled that way..?

We may have our own personal interest. Our own issues going on that we are entitled and responsible to ‘protect’. But be a man. (even to the ladies). Be a man, be sincere and just be yourself. There’s nothing to lose when you be yourself. But surely there are lots more that you will lose now and in the future by choosing to pretend. Amen. And goodbye. Look for friends who deserve you. You are worthy no matter how people judge or label you. Respect and honour yourself with this. You deserve it.

Bow Like a San

You know what I just realized..?  The more we’re humble and nice to some people who think they’re superior than us,better watch out. You might get your head stepped on. You’ve done the possible best to be of useful, everything goes well, and when that person thinks you’re not good enough despite your sincerity and ability, close case.Finito. Move on. *stunned* Are there are no better ways to end something, officially? A company with who does not need the service or help of any employees will terminate the person’s duration, of course, with prior notice. What if that employee was not informed? The workers whispering.. and uhmm..at the same time another person congratulates you telling you that you’re staying for another term.. humm..which 1 to believe.. ? should I clear my desk and just go..? or ask my superior if I’m among the lucky ones to stay. At the same time I do not want to sound too desperate. But again, the official announcement and list of who gets to stay have been announced..and you got to know from another person, indirectly, that your name is not in. Go figure.

How could a company of such scale have that ‘courtesy’ not tell you officially, write a memo, call or something to tell you OFFICIALLY that you’re not in. What’s so difficult about that? It would have made my life easier if somebody with a decent PR could announce the decision to me sincerely. But this, none ! I am not frustrated that I’m not selected. Life is far greater and much more appreciable than this situation and ‘dilemma’ which I’ve been facing the past 2 months. It became a major internal conflict. It became a guess game which I hate to bits. I am and certainly won’t be frustrated with the news, but what killed me was that no one from that company approached to break or announce that news to me officially when in fact some of my colleagues who are also leaving have been emailed by the ‘HR’. And me..?

The world is not about me, I am clearly aware of that dear friends.But gosh, where’s the courtesy, where’s the decency ..and most importantly where’s the sincerity..? And these people who are involved are people that I know, not some strangers. I wanted to maintain the ‘professional’ relation by not bugging them all time to ask if I’m staying or not. I did ask once, no answer. So i thought, I would wait. Wait punya wait until the announcement date, nothing. Did they forget me? or are they just keeping silent? Whatever it is, i just think they were not being professional.

Back to the title..Bow like a San.  San is the most neutral and famous title in the Japanese culture and can be used in most situation. Bow like a Japanese. Bow to your peers to show MUTUAL respect and not the other way round. Bow to your subordinates and superior and ensure that you get a bow back. You know I mean it literally right. Respect. I think it is an important aspect of our daily lives as we should at all times respect others, professionally, personally and socially. There should not be an inch of tolerance towards double standards irregardless how that person may or may not be useful to you. Start it today.Start it with yourself.

I was just touched because this issue came from people whom I ‘used’ to know. Even if I did not know them from before, I would still be touched. Internally I am stable. Just the outer crust of my feelings is a bit cracked and will heal by time. Lesson to be learn, Bow like a San but make sure nobody steps over your head. Not even your shadow. Oh no, don’t you dare.

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Holding On

I have 6 finals to sit in the next couple of weeks, 2 experimental report to finish by tomorrow, uhmm.. a literature review by tonight… and oh yeah.. revision for the 6 papers.. pheww… Its a good thing I’ve been slowing down on my sports. Some focus and rightful priority for my final few months as an undergraduate. My last paper will be on April 3rd. A couple of weeks break before heading for the last 2 months, and if all goes well, insyaAllah (God wills), I’ll wrap things up by 27th June (not 20th). I can’t imagine how I’ve been able to go through this.. it takes a lot more to cover 7 subjects, than finishing an Ironman..hahah.. anyways, the big show down will start soon.I will make it through April 3rd. Must keep my motivation and discipline up. The same way I train for my tris and running races. Dear Lord, please give me the strength !! Go Julie go !

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I should

Stop asking myself why. If why is the only issue I should think of, then the rest of my life will end up in looking for an eternal list of Whys? Whys surface when there’s a need to , but not to serve as an excuse for an argument or to satisfy one’s satisfaction. E.g. Why am I so fat? Why can’t I reduce my weight? Why the oppression? Ok, fine. Just stop right there. Go on to the next step. The hows. Look up for the hows. Just like the Whys, there were be a plentiful of whys. Then comes the challenge of facing these options. Which one to choose from ?

Then and again, there’s no hard rules in life saying that you should be doing this, this way or another. You can be an artist, a painter, with a set of painting tools. Give 100 artists a 100 set of the same tools, you’ll come up with 999,999 if not a million type of paintings. That’s the beauty of life. The will power is in our hands. The ability to choose , execute and live is within our domain. Basic rules still apply though. We’re here on earth to do good, to ensure justice and to make the best of our living herein and hereafter.

My life is short. I have a choice. And that is making the best out of each day that I live. No more crying little girl. No more crying.

God Bless.

Stressed up..

Normal huh? yeah..easy to say but when the tyrant wind of stress hits ya..its either u crumble to the grown, stand tall against this strong current.. or.. just ‘sway’ with it.. My problem is that sometimes I ‘hit’ back at this force going against me, too hard at times that I might risk of injuring myself. I don’t know.. the simplicity of life and how it should be is a far cry from my reality. It’s a too idealistic concept which I haven’t found a way to make it less idealistic, and more realistic.

Being to optimistic would not help.. Being too pessimistic of course, wouldn’t help either. Maintaining myself in the neutral ‘zone’ of being realistic is hard. I get carried way emotionally too soon. Not forgetting the Leo in me.. always roaring even when there are no exact reasons to roar !

God is indeed testing me. And I have to start bucking up to live up to the ‘tests’. To myself, please please be a stronger person. I don’t know.. but do you get ticked off easily..? I do most times and lately this trait have been showing like there’s no tomorrow. I do not want to die of a heart attack… I know I can’t control death, but I can and should control myself. Life is short.. Very short.. I would not want to waste it. I would not waste it for stupid things, for stupid people or for stupid reasons. We gotta play around in life a bit coz nothing is perfect except God. Life will have its own tricky way to amaze me, so I better get prepped up…