A few tips which I practice when dealing with a know-it-all. A know it all is generally a highly opinionated, arrogant, and believe that their knowledge is superior. The purpose of this post is not to undermine the know -it -all, but as a guidance for those who wishes to avoid from getting annoyed by this type of people/friends. These tips may or may not work depending on the strength of your personality and the attitude of the know-it-all. Do provide feedback after reading this post ! Thank you !
KEEP THE CONVERSATION GENERAL
- Choose AND stick to a general topic, for conversation sake
- If you’re talking one to one, its safe to keep the conversation short-medium. not too long!
- If the topic sides more to the know-it-all type (as in the know-it-all actually knows in-depth about the topic ), do give some allowance for them to talk, but not to the extent of encouraging them to brag of what they know
- You might want to know that some of the know-it-all can be highly insecure people, thus allowing (to a certain extent) them to talk)shows them that they have nothing to lose
AVOID ASKING COMPREHENSIVE QUESTIONS (unless you have to)
- Sometimes its our own fault, we ask too much !
- Ask specific questions using really selective words as to not ‘generalize’ the question. Instead of ‘Do you know when was the fall of the Berlin Wall?’, use this ‘When exactly did the Berlin Wall fell?’ along your conversation (in this case these 2 people are discussing about the collapse of East German)
- Using ‘Do you know’ sounds just right/ethical , but I personally think if you use it repeatedly, you put yourself in a sort-of lower reliability in terms of who knows deeper on certain issues
- Depth of knowledge is, thus, important. Do increase your general knowledge and do bother to dig up on the issues/topics which interest you
- Email is another option if you want your questions to be answered precisely. Communicate via email Save those unwanted extra chatting time !
NO NEED TO REPLY TO THE PERSON’S COMMENT/FEEDBACK TO YOUR STATEMENT (and vice versae)
- We don’t want to be rude to anybody, including those annoying ones
- Silence can be potent if used correctly. Not responding to the person’s comment, cuts off the chance for that person to brag on more of what he/she knows. Especially if the person’s comment/remarks are the really ‘inviting’ ones. Inviting statements invite people to respond, and that is exactly what a know-it-all wants, a chance to shine that limelight on him/herself and have that moment.
- If the know-it-all respond to your statement, just cut it off by keeping quiet (not responding)
- Appreciation remarks should be used carefully. Prizing a ‘thank you’ can both show appreciation and humility. But being too humble or too thankful is no good. So avoid ‘Thank you so much’ or ‘I really appreciate it’. You should know when people really deserve these kind of statements.
- Playing with words, especially words that signifies appreciation may ignite that sense of superiority to the know-it-all. So again, be careful.
- If the person is telling you more than you should know (if he/she is responding to your question), then remind that person not to do it again. Never cut off a person’s line. It’s rude and you might hurt that person’s feeling
- Don’t hesitate to end the conversation. remember, the shorter the conversation, the less risk you face from becoming a victim of the know-it-all
- A few good examples to end a conversation
- I got to go
- Have a wonderful week ahead
- Have a nice day
- I got to go
- Avoid these
- Talk to you soon
- I wish we can talk/chat longer
- I don’t have much time (it’ll sound to offensive a.k.a. rude)
AVOID THE PERSON
- Physically, its not a hard task to do. But we should not double-standard them , or anyone else for that matter
- If you’re depressed, this is the last person you want to meet
- If you’re using the online apps ; Twitter, FB, YM, MSN etc, you may want to filter/block or delete them from your list. It’ll save you from the unwanted mess and trouble.
- The point of blocking/deleting them is not that you don’t want to be friends with them,but a way to ease your senses from overflowing info. Come on, that’s why we have search engines and online news ! duh ! We don’t need the know-it-all type to feed u with unnecessary info all the time
GET YOUR FACTS CORRECT
- As mentioned earlier, there’s no harm broadening your knowledge
- Do read up, Google, keep up with the news and other going ons in your neighbourhood, state, country
- Revise on the issues which you’re unsure of its validity. Reliable sources is the key.
- Getting your facts correct serves as shield (or sword if you wish to) especially when confronting the know-it-all
- Boasting and bragging can be a major turn off. Those who can’t brag about their wealth, may choose to brag on their knowledge.
- Keep to yourself, and stay low
- Speak when you need to , but never keep a silence too long
- If a person ask you a general question, you may want to ask the person if there is anything more specific that he or she wants to know. AND answer precisely to the questions.
- If you wish to explain further, have the courtesy to ask frankly whether your friend/listener wants to know more
- Know when to stop talking ; when your listener shows a decreasing/lack of interest
- recognize that it is useless to argue with this type of person
- don’t take their behaviour personally
- acknowledge their competence and take time to hear them out
- maintain your sense of humour and go with the flow